Just the other night I was chatting with a friend about happiness. I told her that I had a vivid memory of a party – one of, oh, I’d say, a thousand parties (seemed like one per night) in my youth. I was probably about 24 at the time. I was standing in a kitchen – whose house? who knows? – with my foot up on the seat of a kitchen chair. I was drinking Guinness out of a bottle, talking to Denny Lindsey, just laughing my ass off. The house was filled with laughter, loud GOOD music and people I loved. It was winter and I had on blue jeans, a flannel shirt and some hiking boots. I was filled to overflowing with joy – pure joy. And I thought “I’m gonna always remember how happy I am tonight.”
You know, close to four decades later, I still DO remember that.
And so what an interesting little bit of synchronicity that less than a week after recounting this story, I was on my goddaughter’s Facebook page and saw a post from her uncle – Denny Lindsey. So I sent off a “friend request” and tonight we connected on Facebook.
Looking at the pictures of his family – I was close friends with his sister, my goddaughter’s mom, and with Denny and their brother Geoff – brought back a flood of memories.
And it got me thinking of the great, incomparable gift that old friends are in our lives. Especially friendships that aren’t just longstanding – but the ones that began in our formative years. People who knew us when we were significantly forging who we have eventually become. Who, in fact, helped shape that becoming-ness.
So welcome back into my life, Denny Lindsey. And thanks to all of the companions of my youth.
Though there can be a danger that friends from our past can’t see who we are now, blinded as they are by who we once were, the ones who DO see the changes, but also remember the changeling – those are rare and precious jewels and should be cherished appropriately.
How about you? Are you blessed by people who knew you “back in the day”? Is it fun to reminisce? Do they see you as you are now? Do you see THEM as they are now?
I’d really like to know!