When I was a life coach, one of the tools I would use with clients who felt stuck was a “Things Hanging Over my Head” list. Remember poor Damocles who had that sword hanging over his head? When you feel that way (“if I make a move, a bad thing might happen”) it’s hard to get into action.
Like you, I have some periods that are very productive (which always make me feel happy – whether or not they have any ultimate meaning or purpose). And then there are days like yesterday. Yeah. Those days when you go to bed and say to yourself, well that felt like a waste.
As I was journalling this morning, I thought “What’s up with me?” and thus this post.
So I made a “Things Hanging Over My Head” list so that rather than unsconsciouslly avoiding the pain points or operating at half steam because of them, I can either address them (long or short term) or at least acknowledge that they’re there and decide what I’m going to do about it.
Once you look at what you’re avoiding you can both decide what to do about it, and also see the ripple effect.
Here’s one example:
- Hanging over my head – the weight I gained at Christmas is just enough to make my new-ish jeans too tight, but my older jeans are still way too baggy.
- So I’m wearing the baggy jeans and feel like a slob (but when I wore the tighter jeans Friday night I was not only uncomfortable but felt that looked bad too)
Of course, the correct (for me) longer term solution is to lose the weight I gained and all will be right in the world – at least vis-a-vis pants. But a good short term solution might be to spend $30 on a pair of jeans that fits better right NOW so that I don’t feel like a schmoe every day.
Some of the items on my list will take more time/energy/new approaches (how DO I address my kittens’ destructiveness?). Some are simple and I just need to complete them (attending to the chaos in my office – I HAVE been working on that, but since I spend a lot of my time here, until it’s done, the disorder affects my mood and productivity).
How about you? Is there anything ‘hanging over your head’ that is sapping you of vitality, productivity and joy? What ya gonna do about it? I really want to know!