What is the answer?
No matter what the question is “I bet you a nickel” (as my friend Kay says) there are lots of answers.
Today my friend Deanna looked like she needed a hug after our Saturday morning get together. I invited her over for a visit and she told me of her struggles lately with anxiety. I happen to know a thing or two about dancing that dance, so I told her what had worked for me and gave her specific resources. For illustrative purposes – one issue, anxiety; likely many causes (at least for me) and here were some of the solutions:
- Prayer and meditation
- Talking to people (therapist, friends, family members)
- EMDR – a type of therapy that is phenomenal for anxiety and PTSD
- Herbal remedies (motherwort, nettles/oatstraw, passionflower a wee bit of valerian)
- Changing the diet (I forgot to tell her to eliminate soy – major estrogenic, thus anxiety producing)
I gave her phone numbers for a kickass massage therapist, my acupuncture/Traditional Chinese Medicine healer, my holistic chiropractor/nutrition person and a really good therapist who does EMDR. Told her to get Susun Weed’s fabulous book “Wise Woman Ways for the Menopausal Years” – a ‘bible’ of mine from about the age of 45 on.
My point isn’t what has worked for me about anxiety (though I’m happy to talk about that, too). But that there are always MANY ways to approach an issue. I prefer to combine soul/spirit/body/mind – ease the issue through many paths. I have found various paths that work for me – same way you find things: trial and error, reading, getting references, paying attention.
And I ALWAYS ask “Who benefits?” And how am I positioned? I like remedies which empower me and that aren’t shown as “the one true way” – say that to me and I’m out the door.
And each of us will find our own way, ya? Just reminding everyone – you’re not a nail in search of a hammer. If a hammer presents itself to you, look for a bigger toolbox.